Okay, today was quite an emotionally packed day. It had its ups and down as usual. But this time, the downs dug deeper than ever before. So I decided to share with all of you readers what I learnt today, or what I've learnt over the years. This advice and story applies mostly to young readers, especially to girls.
In your life, you have to learn to be confident. At least confident enough to say NO when you know what you're doing isn't right. You have to realise when something is right and when it is wrong. What should be done and what shouldn't be. You are growing up. Your mum isn't always going to be there to tell you what to do. You have to act out of your own mind, you have to make the right decision, even when it's the hard decision.
I'm going to bring up the example which all parents are worried about when their children are going through adolescence; boys. Or rather, getting pregnant because of one. Now I'm not going to indulge in all of the details but I will mention the dangers.
When you're out with a boy (or girl) and you haven't known each other too long, you have to be careful. The guy/girl might seem perfectly nice and proper but you never know what's going through his (or her) head. Honestly I think girls have to be more careful than guys. I don't really think I have to explain why. If you're too passive and let him do what he wants, you're the one who has to suffer the consequences, not him. If you are experiencing someone taking advantage of you, if you're being sexually abused, tell someone. Tell your parents or your P.S.D or guidance teacher. You can tell your friends, but there is not much they can do. They can only be there for you, maybe give you some advice. If you feel too shy or too embarrassed to talk to someone, find a way to make some courage. You have to use your voice. You deserve to be heard. You don't deserve to suffer, especially not alone, you must find help of some kind.
Then there is the matter of older men - and I mean, really older men. This comes as common sense. If you see that the man is trying to 'make a move' on you, stop him immediately. Put your foot down. Don't let him touch you, don't let him even come near you! But if the situation develops, you have a problem. If you actually fall for him, than you won't be able to stop him. He will act all nice and friendly, then, when he sees the moment fit, he will strike. When you trust him enough, he'll use the advantage and take you up to his room. You might be too blind to see his purpose, but your friends and family would know exactly what's going through his head. This is why it's important to confide in someone. When you do and they tell you that what you're doing is wrong (which it is) BELIEVE THEM. Let them open your eyes. Let them show you that what you're doing is wrong, that letting him do those things to you is wrong. Don't just hear them, LISTEN to them. What they say is for your own good, they're not the ones who mean you harm, he is.
If the situation is that you do not like what's going on, that you're being forced, than the first thing you have to do is to tell your parents. Not your friends, your parents. Even though your friends might know what to do, their word means nothing against an adult's. Your parents will be able to report him, to bring him to court and to do him justice. By 'going out' with a young girl of less than eighteen years of age he is breaking the law. Use this against him.
Don't be passive and just do what he says like a little puppy. Do something about it. Trust me, I can not say this with any more seriousness, you do not want to bare a child at a young age. It's not fun or pleasant. You'll have to give up so much in your life. Everything will change. There are many books and articles you can read for proof of this. I read this book called 'Dear Nobody' which shows all of the factors of teenage pregnancy. I wouldn't want to be in that position, for anything in the world.
So here is how I think:
Do what you want. Have as much fun as you please. Go out. Meet friends. Study. Live your life to the fullest. But when it comes down to it, when you have to make the decision, don't be stupid. Be strong. Be brave. Kick him in the ass and make sure you never see him again.
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